| * | Use assertion. Be sure to avoid passive language. It leads to misunderstandings of instructions, deadlines and level of importance. For example, when you have firm deadlines and expectations avoid the words: soon, maybe, please try, right away, as soon as possible, etc. Instead, be specific by giving exact dates and clear directives. |
| * | Give reasons. We spoke in an earlier article on the importance of reasons for some people. Some people do not need reasons to move forward. They just do it. Others have a different thought process and need to fully understand why they are doing something or how it fits into the big picture. When delegating, give reasons. It only takes a minute or two. |
| * | Provide clear expectations. Research shows that most people who do not meet expectations are unclear with what was expected. Many do not feel comfortable asking for clarification. Probably more than you think. Others think they understand but unknowingly have a different perception of your expectations. After making a request ask an open ended question that will reveal if you are understood. The advice is to be direct. For example, say, "To make sure I am being clear or to avoid a misunderstanding, please explain to me what you heard or what your next step is going to be." Get their version. Another option is to simply ask, "What more information can I provide you to clarify?" or "What questions do you have for me about this?" or "How can I support you further to get this accomplished?" Close-ended questions will not bring the best results. Use assertive language with open-ended questions for best results. |
| * | Agree on timelines & deadlines. Often timelines and deadlines are unrealistic in addition to the fact, that those receiving the request are either unaware that they can push back, are uncomfortable with disagreeing, or do not realize how unrealistic the timeline is. Then deadlines are missed or quality is less. |
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Be accountable. Lead by example...an age old phrase, but it stands alone and powerful. To influence others to be accountable, demonstrate accountability yourself by following the tips below:
| * | Delegate, then follow up. Check in periodically and verbalize appreciation when completed. |
| * | Remember what you say or don't say it. Many times unexpected priorities take your focus to new projects, ideas, challenges, etc. |
| * | Keeping people posted on previous discussions, requests, organizational projects, etc. builds trust and helps them feel valued. |
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